How were you socialized into your gender roll?
For me as a child, there wasn’t much of a push that I had to be or act a certain way as a girl or young lady[ I was considered a tomboy. I liked to wear jeans and my best friend was a boy so we would skateboard, play video games, and with mini monster trucks or hot wheels. Even as a girl, I didn’t want baby dolls or mini kitchen sets-though I had a kitchen set as a toddler. I wanted Barbies or Bratz dolls or Legos- it wasn’t until I got my first, and last, boyfriend -(we’ll be celebrating our 10 year anniversary in October), that I started to realize but also really love my gender-roll as a women or mainly his woman. For example like learning a way to a mans heart is through his stomach and being a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets, most couples today would look at us as very old fashioned but I like cooking and cleaning or getting all dolled up before he gets home from work and having a delicious meal ready for us. I can be lazy too-so it’s nice to have him enjoy doing more of the hard labor stuff or killing a spider for me. We do work together very well – if I cook he does the dishes, or if he does the laundry- I fold and so on. Maybe because we’re so old fashion is why we’ve been together so long. Another reason I think is even though I am a lady, we both are obsessed with video games and technology. So where in our gender rolls we our very old fashion but also our hobbies are extremely similar even more on gender rolls- even in gaming most women don’t play or shouldn’t play shooting games and I honestly am just not good at them. We play VR games together and some games like ‘God of War’, but our set up at home allows him to play his fps (first person shooter) games; while I play my mmorpg (massive multiplayer online role playing game) -like elder scrolls or even older games like Spyro. So,even in gaming we’re “traditional” with that- I play “games girls would play” and he plays “games boys should play” which is just how we are and works for us.
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