JBC p. 243 Wedding Dreams
Even though socially it might be “weird” that me, as a women, and also one who’s been in such a long term relationship, I’ve never had dreams of my wedding or how it should be. As a child, I had friends talk about it, but it never really interested me. Even when I first met my boyfriend- I think we would both joke about it, but we were broke and 16. Now that we’ve been in a relationship for almost 10 years, we want to be husband and wife one day; but I personally think we should wait till we live together and own a house together even though I don’t think it’ll make much of difference between now and then. Besides all the legal stuff; I’m also not very religious or have a huge family and lots of friends. Mainly I think weddings are a huge waist of money. I’d rather take a trip to Japan or Spain because traveling the world is one of my goals and that’s where I’d rather spend my money or my time with my love. I also have several acquaintances that “accidentally” get pregnant and then immediately get married. After these readings and what we talk about in class; not to brag- but I’m extremely lucky with how romantic and compatible my relationship is. I wouldn’t say it’s perfect, but it’s pretty darn close- we’re lovers, best friends, and life partners. So it’s kinda sad and weird to see these unhappy couples put on a show for 1 day out of the rest of their lives or at least until they get divorced not because they want to but because they got pregnant and think that’s socially what you must do. Another reason why white weddings or any wedding doesn’t appeal to me is it’s just a big show for your family and friends “like look at us we’re so happy and in love”. I mean all the gifts are nice but personally, I think love is very sacred and I don’t need the rest of the world to know or approve or disapprove of my relationship. I used to work as a photography assistant for weddings and one shoot always stuck out to me: the couple we were shooting was at to the San Francisco court house which is a beautiful building and his and her family were their all dressed up; she was in a very expensive and beautiful white gown with her bouquet but what I’ll never forget was another couple in line to sign their marriage papers in Adidas sweats, slides, and T-shirt’s (not matching or anything) just very chill and what my boyfriend and I wear grocery shopping) and I thought that’ll be us.
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